Sunday, October 17, 2010

Sometimes we need a reminder of just what is really important in our lives..

Ok so I know I don't usually blog on the weekends..yupp I am a week day blogger and have far too fabulous a life to blog on the weekends..baahaahaaa!! Yeah right!!  Seriously though whenever I get a chance to spend time with my family I take full advantage with no distractions. Maybe it is due to the fact that through out my married life Mr. M has left us for long periods of time or maybe it is the fact of just being so absent in our families lives due to never living close enough to them to be any real part of anything going on with them. We have been through many hard times in our marriage and have made it through without so much as a dent. Honestly I think the hard times is what makes us stronger as unit. If we can make it through everything we have so far I think we will be just fine when anything hard comes up.

Ok ok I know you are thinking..oh great not another sentimental blah blah blog but there is a point to this. You see last week was a really hard week for me and my family. October 12th was the one year anniversary of my little brother's death and to say it was hard would not even begin to state it correctly. It was so hard for me that I could not even call my mom to see how she was doing until the next day. I knew she would be crying and I knew I would cry too and I really just wanted to make it through the day with out crying. Yeah it didn't work but nice try right?!  So I am telling you all of this for one reason and that is..
I received an email today and it made me laugh, cry and seriously reconsider some of the pettiness that has bugged me over the past year and decided to truly take the high road from now on and not only tell everyone how I feel but to never ever let anyone go a day without either hearing how fabulous I think they are or by my showing them with a small act of kindness. I really want to share this email with you and I truly do hope that each and every one of you will not only take it to heart but will also know that each and every word in this email I truly mean for all of you, your families and anyone close to you!
I would like to dedicate this blog to my dear sweet brother whom I will always love and miss terribly. Phil I love you and I hope you are at peace and know how much you are loved and missed!

One day a woman's husband died, and on that clear, cold morning, in the warmth of their bedroom, the wife was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes there isn't "anymore". No more hugs, no more special moments to celebrate together, no more phone calls just to chat, no more "just one minute." Sometimes, what we care about the most gets all used up and goes away, never to return before we can say good-bye, say"I love you."

So while we have it, it's best we love it, care for it, fix it when it's broken and heal it when it's sick. This is true for marriage.....And old cars... And children with bad report cards, and dogs with bad hips, and aging parents and grandparents. We keep them because they are worth it, because we are worth it.

Some things we keep -- like a best friend who moved away or a sister-in-law after divorce. There are just some things that make us happy, no matter what.

Life is important, like people we know who are special.. And so, we keep them close!

I received this from someone who thought I was a 'keeper'! Then I sent it to the people I think of in the same way... Now it's your turn to send this to all those people who are "keepers" in your life, including the person who sent it, if you feel that way. Suppose one morning you never wake up, do all your friends know you love them?

I was thinking...I could die today, tomorrow or next week, and I wondered if I had any wounds needing to be healed, friendships that needed rekindling or three words needing to be said.

Let every one of your friends know you love them. Even if you think they don't love you back, you would be amazed at what those three little words and a smile
 can do. And just in case I'm gone tomorrow.

, A Ton!!!



Kat said...

That is so sweet. Sometimes, we all need a small reminder that tomorrow may never come, and if it doesn't we need to be aware of whether or not those we love know we love them, too. This was a great post.

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High Heeled Life said...

What a beautiful post to homor the memory of your brother. If you read my "in God's hands" next to the about me tab under the header.. you'll understand when I say I know this to be so true on a very personal level. I was given a second chance and try to truly enjoy each moment of each day.

Know that your brother is with you each day and is so proud of you.

Blessings to you and your family. HHL

Maranda said...

What a special email. You are right. We need to not let the petty stuff get to us. We need to live each day to the fullest.

((Hugs)) to you and your family during your hard time.

Jennifer Bowen said...

What a great post to pay tribute to your brother! Thank you for that reminder, Mrs. M. Sometimes we get so caught up on insignificant things that we forget what's really important.

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